Figuring Out Why We Struggle With Our Weight



Weight loss is about so much more than eating less and exercising more. I mean, maybe physically it is, but for most of us, especially me, it’s so much deeper.

I feel like such a mess right now. We’re just 2 weeks into the new year, and I’m really struggling to get back on track after Christmas.

I’ve planned. I purchased. And I failed. Already. In the few short weeks since the new year has begun. I haven’t been doing awful. But I haven’t been where I want to be eating-wise.

So I sat down today and thought about it. What is it that makes me eat too much, even when I’m not hungry? It’s not like I’m on a restricted diet and I’m not getting enough to eat each day. I’m trying to eat just a little healthier and a little less. Nothing ridiculous.

First I really think I struggle with mild depression, and that makes me overeat. I also thing that I’m in the middle of some life-changing situations right now.

It’s not that my life is bad, but the way I’m perceiving things makes me feel so out of control. One thing that’s been bugging me is the uncertainty of the antique booths that my mom and I run. One isn’t doing well at all and the other is in limbo because the building might be sold. My future as a vintage picker is on shaky ground, and I don’t know what I’ll do after that. My hubby and I share a car, and I don’t want to buy one just so I can get a 9-5 job. Another reason I’m reluctant to get a full time job is that I am the caretaker for my mom when she needs me. I want to be available for her, as she has had some health issues recently. (More stress.)

Other things that have been buried are the fact that my kids are in the process of moving out. One travels and does seasonal work at resorts. The other is in college for just another year and then she’ll be out on her own. My time as a mom is dwindling and that makes me a little sad too. I’m struggling to redefine myself as a woman. As a mom. As a wife. As an employee. Who am I now and who am I becoming?

All these feelings have been pushed deep down as I try to go about my daily life. I try to ignore them but their presence rears its ugly head as I reach in the refrigerator for comfort.

I write this not only with the hope that I’ll be more able to understand my emotional eating, but hope that others will be able to think about what really makes them overeat and ultimately become overweight. And it’s different for everyone. It’s even different for me during different seasons in my life.

So as the new year begins and you’re thinking about starting a new weight loss plan, or continuing one from last year, think about these other factors in your life. Are there things that are making you overeat that you maybe don’t even associate with food? And more importantly, are there things that you can do about them?

The scope of what makes us overeat is virtually endless, so it’s impossible to have one solution. But the first part of a solution is to become aware of the external factors that drive our behavior.

So before I go any further, I need to get a pen and paper and do some brainstorming. And some journaling. And some praying.

I really believe this is the first step to true and lasting weight loss.



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2 thoughts on “Figuring Out Why We Struggle With Our Weight

  1. That’s the problem with diets isn’t it. They work for a while and then you’re back to square one. Unless you can find the triggers for over eating you just end up going back to that place. Sometimes it takes years but most people end up back where they were in the end. Positive thoughts from me!


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